May 2006

Dear Friend,

After my clutter clearing last month I jumped right into a big bowl of fear. Fear of the change, fear of the unknown. It's good to know that feeling fear is natural and common to most everyone. Some hide in their fear and are scared to make changes. Some face their fear and accept fear as being as natural and living and breathing.

For me, my fear was costing me energy, insights, and creativity. What made me shift? The realisation that however fearful I may feel, my life is moving forward anyway. And all I have is now, this moment.

Be courageous and face the fear that is hunting you! After all, it is there, isn't it? Read more about fear, how it's stopping you from doing great things in your life, and what you can do to survive with the fear in the featured article below.

Liselotte Molander

 

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Surviving With Fear in a Time of Change

We have an impact on the qualities of our lives. We always have a choice; to suffer, or to prosper. It is up to each one of us to take responsibility and to do something creative with our lives.

Sounds familiar? We hear it from each motivational speaker, inspirational messages overwhelm us, we get the message from everywhere. And who are you not to take it on, believe it, and live from it?

So tell me, what is happening with you when you find yourself being a victim, powerless and you see no way out of the situation? When you are forced into a change that you didn't foresee, or expected? It just happened?

It is so easy to get angry and beat yourself up with negative self talk and self blame. It's as easy as blaming others and seeing it as "they did it to me"! So if you do, you are not alone.

Very often the trigging feeling for blame and criticism is fear. You may have felt this fear when you were younger and got bullied in school, or when a sibling tried to trick you, somebody bad mouthed you, or a parent didn't keep their promise…

Most of us loathe our fear. We try to wish it away, ignore it, or get rid of it. We have developed a number of coping techniques and may even try to find new ways to deal with the situation. Some people go shopping, eat too much, get depressed, and bury themselves in anti depressants…

Ultimately it is not the memories from the past or fear for the future that is stopping you from having a good life. It is that little voice that keeps repeating the same old thoughts and beliefs that stops you from being outrageously successful and having great fun with it.

That little terrorizing voice ruins your way to success. The situation may be different, but the fear is just redressed or resized. It may look nice and friendly, but it still belittles you, and make you feel "less than".

In the midst of fear, self criticism, blame and anger, it is difficult to make a conscious shift out of the situation. The truth is; you can never get rid of your fear. But you can learn to accept that it's there and that it is a natural feeling, a part of being human.

So, how to get out of fear? Be brave, even if it's scary. Turn around and face your fear. Let the following questions help you to deal with sudden, overwhelming fear. You can of course use them in any situation when you feel less than, powerless and victimised.

If this fear was your friend, what would it say? Be open and play with it. Be open, you may get surprised. Wonder; could fear be your friend?
If this fear was your ally, how would you treat it? You may want to name your fear. See if you can make friends with your fear.
How would you change if you accepted the situation, the feelings involved? Just felt it and accepted it? How would your attitude be different? Would you be more or less loving and accepting to yourself? Would it add stress? Less stress?

The next step is to take action. Move your body and see if any idea for action is popping up. In fact, look at all the times you felt fearful and notice that you and your life moved forward anyway. You are not in the same place any more.

You are the only person who can change your way of thinking and how you react on things that happen around you. There are many things that are totally out of your control as well. If your husband decides to leave, or you get laid off, it is in fact out of your control. The struggle starts when you think you can control it, or that it's your fault. If you live your life honestly, consciously and with integrity, you are in a much better place to handle unforeseen changes and fear situations.

To fully accept the fear you may want to increase the feeling of safety around you. What environment do you need to cerate around you to feel safe and loved? What support strategies do you need to put in place? Is there an area in your life where you feel unprotected? Or not taking care of you?

Let Your Brilliance Shine!

What small, but measurable action step can you take this week to increase the safety around you, an area where you feel fearful? Make a commitment this week and pick one area, one place to change, so you can feel better and in charge of whatever change you are facing right now.

Go to http://www.liselottemolander.com/LifeBalance.html and play with the life wheel. You can measure any parameters ( fear, safety, anger, resentment, joy, excitement…) you want and it will give you a fairly good picture of what area you may want to focus.

We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey. ~Stephen Covey

It is more important to know where you are going than to get there quickly. Do not mistake activity for achievement ~ Mabel Newcomber

 

 

Liselotte Molander, Executive Career Coach, is a business professional with over 20 years of experience from worldwide corporations and international marketing, sales and business building.  Experiencing the damaging effects of overwhelm, stress and burnout, she decided it was time to let her life's vision come true.

Liselotte specializes in helping professionals to thrive in their career, financial and private life. Liselotte offers several ways to participate: free courses, group seminars, e-courses, individual and team coaching, speaking and facilitating. Visit her site at www.LiselotteMolander.com or mail Liselotte@LiselotteMolander.com

Read Liselotte’s latest news on her blogs http://LiselotteMolander.blogs.com   and for Swedish speaking at  http://LiselotteMolander.blogs.com/coach

 

©2005-2006 Liselotte Molander

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